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In the two months that we’ve been married we’ve both done a tremendous amount of growing. It seems that a lot of couples today stay away from marriage even if they are totally and completely in love. I’ve heard that many steer clear of it and try to keep things casual and non committal because they are worried that if they do get married they will grow apart as the years go by and then be stuck with each other. But in these two short months of marriage I have learned something important about that. It’s a quote that I can’t remember but I know would perfectly sum it up. That marriage itself helps you grow together. And I don’t just mean at the same time or same speed, but in the same direction. Towards each other. I’m sure I was told this many times in the months of engagement and I know it’s probably something that all happily married couples have already known for years. It feels very good, though, to be experiencing it ourselves in our marriage. Because now it’s not something we’ve heard and hoped for, it’s something that we’re feeling and witnessing firsthand. And it feels just great to be so close.
You are together in the same place, having experiences together good and bad. And you both learn from them. Not that you learn exactly the same thing or that you feel the same way about it every time, but that at the end of the day as you get ready to go to sleep you talk about it. Agree or disagree about it, fight about it, cry about it, bounce ideas off each other, and then you both learn even more. I think that marriage makes it easier to not grow apart. Which is ironic. The very thing people are afraid of about marriage is kind of solved by marriage. Or has the potential to be at least.
In this newlywed stage of life we’re in it’s all about learning. It’s so fun to live together, to ‘stay up late talking and laughing just establishing our life’ as Andrew and Hillary. Learning how to be together, how to help each other, and learning how to learn from each other. We’ve already had a few of our first challenges, but knowing that through our covenants God will make sure that everything will work out makes everything easier to bear. And being together through it all makes it easier to bear too.
So, uh, happy almost-not-even-two-months-yet anniversary Andrew! Here's to the next...uh...two months! Or the next two hundred!
I sure do love you.
You are together in the same place, having experiences together good and bad. And you both learn from them. Not that you learn exactly the same thing or that you feel the same way about it every time, but that at the end of the day as you get ready to go to sleep you talk about it. Agree or disagree about it, fight about it, cry about it, bounce ideas off each other, and then you both learn even more. I think that marriage makes it easier to not grow apart. Which is ironic. The very thing people are afraid of about marriage is kind of solved by marriage. Or has the potential to be at least.
In this newlywed stage of life we’re in it’s all about learning. It’s so fun to live together, to ‘stay up late talking and laughing just establishing our life’ as Andrew and Hillary. Learning how to be together, how to help each other, and learning how to learn from each other. We’ve already had a few of our first challenges, but knowing that through our covenants God will make sure that everything will work out makes everything easier to bear. And being together through it all makes it easier to bear too.
So, uh, happy almost-not-even-two-months-yet anniversary Andrew! Here's to the next...uh...two months! Or the next two hundred!
I sure do love you.
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