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My mom said one of the most important contributions a mother can make to her family is being available to them 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Whether it’s a young child scared of a storm, or a talkative teenager keeping you up past midnight- being there as much as possible physically and emotionally is one of the vital parts of being a good parent. She is lucky to have a job that caters to her young children’s schedules right now, but one of the challenges of it is when employers and co-workers don’t understand that her priority is her own child. She said that people who aren’t parents can’t seem to understand that nothing else comes before her kids, not even her job. She said something else that people don’t understand is the value of ‘just’ being a mom. It prepares you for many aspects of life and fills you with an inexplicable love that gives you super human power. It gives you the power of sticking with it and not giving up or running away during the hard times. She said from the moment you give birth you would gladly die for that baby. You have no problem sacrificing your body, your sleep, your social life, or anything for the well-being of your child. “This gives me a glimpse at how much Heavenly Father loves His children,” she said. “When I realize how deeply I can love their child here on earth.” When I asked for some advice she would give to a new mother she said to always tell your children how wonderful they are and to cherish the time you have with them. “Because it really does go by fast,” she said.
She said support from the church is very meaningful to her. Leaders acknowledge how difficult it is and how important is it to be a mom, when most of the world kind of looks down on you if that's 'all' you do. People often think the LDS church belittles women and places men in superior positions to them. But the church, more than anybody or any other organization in the world validates women, and doesn't make them feel like failures if they are choosing to stay home and cherish the time with their kids. She said that the world tries to make you choose or feel like if you're educated you're wasting it by being home with your kids. "The church makes women feel their absolute best."
When asked about benefits outweighing the costs, she answered, "Yes. In the moment of anger or a trial with your child, you know in your heart positives outweigh the negatives, but right then you're wondering when 18 will come. But then suddenly you’re on the other side of 18 and you feel like it really was gone too quickly." She talked about how that's the other cool twist in it all. That you still feel that powerful love, and when it is time to let go and have your child is live away from you, it feels foreign. Without your child you’re without an arm, no matter how old they get. But you know you desperately want that happy life for them though, and so you have to let go. "You can’t understand it yet, Hillary, but in 25 years all of sudden everything will make sense. That’s when you’ll remember this conversation. As much as you love them and as hard as it is to let go, it would be worse to hold them back. To not allow them to have this amazing life they’re having."
I love my mom. I think Sara Stanley sums up how this interview made me feel.
"I wake up in the morning and she is there. She is there as I close my eyes at night. Her presence is a comfort; a beacon; a rock I cling to when I am afraid. She is my champion. My inspiration. My guide. A mother's love is unselfish, kind. A mother's love is wise, full-hearted, the deepest well."
My mom said one of the most important contributions a mother can make to her family is being available to them 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Whether it’s a young child scared of a storm, or a talkative teenager keeping you up past midnight- being there as much as possible physically and emotionally is one of the vital parts of being a good parent. She is lucky to have a job that caters to her young children’s schedules right now, but one of the challenges of it is when employers and co-workers don’t understand that her priority is her own child. She said that people who aren’t parents can’t seem to understand that nothing else comes before her kids, not even her job. She said something else that people don’t understand is the value of ‘just’ being a mom. It prepares you for many aspects of life and fills you with an inexplicable love that gives you super human power. It gives you the power of sticking with it and not giving up or running away during the hard times. She said from the moment you give birth you would gladly die for that baby. You have no problem sacrificing your body, your sleep, your social life, or anything for the well-being of your child. “This gives me a glimpse at how much Heavenly Father loves His children,” she said. “When I realize how deeply I can love their child here on earth.” When I asked for some advice she would give to a new mother she said to always tell your children how wonderful they are and to cherish the time you have with them. “Because it really does go by fast,” she said.
She said support from the church is very meaningful to her. Leaders acknowledge how difficult it is and how important is it to be a mom, when most of the world kind of looks down on you if that's 'all' you do. People often think the LDS church belittles women and places men in superior positions to them. But the church, more than anybody or any other organization in the world validates women, and doesn't make them feel like failures if they are choosing to stay home and cherish the time with their kids. She said that the world tries to make you choose or feel like if you're educated you're wasting it by being home with your kids. "The church makes women feel their absolute best."
When asked about benefits outweighing the costs, she answered, "Yes. In the moment of anger or a trial with your child, you know in your heart positives outweigh the negatives, but right then you're wondering when 18 will come. But then suddenly you’re on the other side of 18 and you feel like it really was gone too quickly." She talked about how that's the other cool twist in it all. That you still feel that powerful love, and when it is time to let go and have your child is live away from you, it feels foreign. Without your child you’re without an arm, no matter how old they get. But you know you desperately want that happy life for them though, and so you have to let go. "You can’t understand it yet, Hillary, but in 25 years all of sudden everything will make sense. That’s when you’ll remember this conversation. As much as you love them and as hard as it is to let go, it would be worse to hold them back. To not allow them to have this amazing life they’re having."
I love my mom. I think Sara Stanley sums up how this interview made me feel.
"I wake up in the morning and she is there. She is there as I close my eyes at night. Her presence is a comfort; a beacon; a rock I cling to when I am afraid. She is my champion. My inspiration. My guide. A mother's love is unselfish, kind. A mother's love is wise, full-hearted, the deepest well."
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